Feel empowered to break free from the chains of generational patterns. Whether confronting past traumas, redefining familial roles, or silencing the echoes of predators, this blog post is your guide to a courageous reinvention of 'home.' It's the year to stop apologizing for your choices, leave the table when chaos erupts, and embrace the power of self-discovery. Say goodbye to the familiar and step into a new chapter of healing and growth.

All families have particular dynamics. Within the family dynamic everyone plays a role. A role I have filled in my family for years is “helper.” I started to embody this role around the time I was seven years old, and it has been one I’ve carried throughout my life. Fast forward 30 years, and I am just realizing that I have spent every single family holiday helping in the kitchen. This year, I am changing my role!

Here’s what I know for sure: Breaking generational curses is hard! I believe it is hardest for those who are one generation removed from the trauma itself. We are doing the work of healing ourselves while also trying to create a safe environment for someone else. Remember to be kind and patient with yourself. Remember to forgive yourself…and forgive again.

When you can mother yourself, you become increasingly powerful because you have the tools to self-soothe, self-affirm, and exercise self-compassion. These tools are essential for everyone and are increasingly important for those who have experienced their mothers as rejecting, critical, or unavailable.

Our tiny miracles arrived earlier than expected but filled our hearts with joy. Born strong and healthy, their journey in the NICU is a testament to their resilience. Mom and Dad are overjoyed and we're grateful for the incredible care at Presbyterian Hospital. Join us in celebrating the love and support from our village!

My car charger works...except when it doesn’t. I have an iphone charger in my car that is a bit temperamental. When you plug it in, it works...sometimes...and sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes, I plug in my phone and it charges immediately. Other times, I have to plug it in five times, turn it backward and forward, wiggle the cord, replug the USB cable, pray, and then it works. The charger has been this way for at least six months.

On this final day of 2020, I wanted to offer a few words of encouragement. The 7 principles of Kwanzaa have encouraged me in the last 7-days of this year, and I thought they might do the same for you. Each of the seven days of Kwanzaa is dedicated to one of the principles

I am thrilled to announce that I am finally pregnant! I have wanted to be a mother for years, and my partner and I put a lot of prayer, time and resources into making this a reality for our family. As someone who has wanted to experience motherhood for years, I have imagined what it would be like to be pregnant.