I learned that I had to have direct conversations with my partner about what I expected and not assume he would do certain things because he is a man. I had so many preconceived notions about protection and provision that I had never troubled those ideas. I just accepted them as the norm. Having been challenged to discuss gender roles, I began to ask questions like, "Do you want to be a provider? What does providing for your family mean?" Or "I would like my man to be a protector of our family, if someone was trying to harm me or our family, what are you prepared to do?"

As Mother's Day approaches, we navigate the mixed emotions surrounding this significant day. For many, it symbolizes love and appreciation for mothers and mother figures, yet it evokes feelings of loss or unfulfilled needs for others. Amid this, the intricate balance between being a mother and honoring one's mother adds another layer of complexity. Regardless of how you celebrate, honoring the relationships that have shaped us is crucial. Whether through celebration, reflection, or self-care, acknowledging and processing these feelings is essential for a meaningful Mother's Day.

Outsourcing is giving tasks or responsibilities to other people or companies, letting you focus on what you love while someone else takes care of the rest. This practice can significantly improve your mental, emotional, and physical health by reducing stress and freeing up time for what truly matters. Remember, outsourcing isn’t just a strategy for business efficiency—it’s a wellness tool that can lead to a happier, healthier life. Trust the process, and you might find that outsourcing not only simplifies your life but enhances it.

Spring is a time of renewal and growth, and what better way to embrace the season than by giving ourselves a good spring cleaning? But spring cleaning doesn't just mean decluttering our physical space – it also means taking care of our mental, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Spring cleaning isn't just about dusting and decluttering – it's about preparing yourself for the new season in every area of your life. By taking an integrative approach to spring cleaning, you'll create a solid foundation for growth and renewal in the months ahead.

In a society that often tries to invalidate the experiences of Black individuals, finding happiness and joy is a resistance. It's a way to show that despite the challenges, we are still capable of experiencing happiness and leading fulfilling lives. Commitment to well-being and happiness is a form of revolution. It’s a way to challenge the systemic oppression and racism in society. In this form, healing is an act of resistance. During this Black History Month, I encourage you to be unapologetically Black and joyful. Be unapologetically healing. Be unapologetically well.

Relationships and marriage don't necessarily have to be complicated or hard. I believe that every relationship presents us with a unique opportunity to work on ourselves…and working on ourselves can sometimes be challenging. 

When you are so tired of your shit, you will change. When you have suffered enough, you will change. When your spirit is no longer at peace with your current lifestyle, you will change. When you are done with not reaching your full potential, you will change. Change happens when you commit to a new experience. It doesn’t start on January 1. If you want, your change can start today. 

Feel empowered to break free from the chains of generational patterns. Whether confronting past traumas, redefining familial roles, or silencing the echoes of predators, this blog post is your guide to a courageous reinvention of 'home.' It's the year to stop apologizing for your choices, leave the table when chaos erupts, and embrace the power of self-discovery. Say goodbye to the familiar and step into a new chapter of healing and growth.