Thoughts on Mother's Day
This weekend was Mother's Day, and I reflected on the importance of mothers. I honor women as the first teachers of their children. The effect that women have on their children begins the moment the child is conceived. Whatever the mother feeds herself, the child eats. Whatever the mother feels, the child feels. Whatever the mother allows, the child experiences. Children drink from their mothers’ bosoms, and our mothers remain our "source" long after we are weaned. Some of us struggle in our adult lives because we spent years drinking spoiled milk: attached to the bosom of a woman who was unwell and who could not give us what we needed because she didn't provide these things to herself. I encourage women to love themselves because it is the only way to love our children properly. I am deeply invested in women's wellness. The wellness of women is paramount because women are nation-builders. Women must first care for themselves to build strong children, families, and nations. To teach is to demonstrate. If we are to teach our children to love themselves, we must show them how we treat ourselves, others, and how we treat them.
Ladies, prioritize your well-being by indulging in nutritious food, positive company, affirming words, loving gestures, respectful relationships, and fulfilling work. Each day, dedicate a moment to something that brings you joy. Adorn yourself in clothes that make you feel beautiful, surround yourself with scents that uplift you, listen to music that brings a smile to your face, read uplifting literature, and ensure someone gives you a warm embrace. Remember, a man's love for you is a reflection of your self-love. Love yourself fiercely.
I urge men to be deliberate in their choice of partners, spouses, and mothers for their children. A woman's energy permeates your home. If you desire a joyful household, select a content woman (and actively contribute to her happiness). Men who carry unresolved and unhealed wounds from their mothers are unable to choose healthy partners; they inadvertently repeat the past. Men, you bear the responsibility for the woman you choose for yourself and your children. Heal yourself so that you can make the right choice. What she nourishes herself with, is what you will consume (both literally and metaphorically)! Opt for a woman who feeds herself with positivity. Allow us to guide you as you strive to build a harmonious relationship.
This Mother’s Day, I sat in the kitchen with my mother and smiled. I told her I was proud of her. She has come a long way. I understand the impact of my mother’s actions and choices when she did not yet love herself. Many of these choices affected me in ways I am still working to heal. Healing is a practice and process. I understand now that nothing she did, said, or allowed had anything to do with me. I was attached to a woman who did not yet understand her worth. Today, I admire her as a woman who comes into herself and her divine goddess power. A woman who is willing to learn, change, and grow. Ladies, I encourage you to do the same. Allow us to coach you as you journey toward a more loving life. You deserve it.
Love,
Dr. Adrianne R. Pinkney
Integrative Wellness and Life Coach
