Ready for 2019?
I have been thinking a lot about my clients as I prepare for the New Year. I've been listening with my heart, and I am finding that many people want to DO things in 2019: save money, be in a serious relationship, start a business, write a book, or get a new job. I get it. There is so much to do! And, yes, goal-setting matters (Friendly reminder: B. Well offers workshops on goal-setting). Having relational, financial, and professional goals for the year is essential. Having a vision matters. You need a vision to know where you are going and when you have arrived.
However...
As you prepare for the New Year, I challenge you to move away from what you want to have or do and focus on what you seek to experience. These are more spiritual things. You might not be able to hold them in your hand or hang them on your wall, but they can be had no matter what the year brings. Instead of specific financial goals, you could write, "This year, I choose to experience financial peace and abundance." Whether you get into a committed relationship or not, 2019 could be the year in which, "I will know love." Instead of focusing on writing a book, be willing to become a writer. Move away from getting a promotion, and focus on becoming a leader. If you focus on the experience, you can not lose. The promotion is theirs to give you, but the leadership skills are yours whether you are promoted or not. The relationship might work, and it might not. But did you experience yourself as loving? Were you able to receive love from someone else? Set yourself up to win in 2019 by losing the expectations and opening to the experience. What is it that you seek to experience in 2019?
Here's your work to prepare for the New Year:
As you prepare for the New Year, I invite you to explore the potential for growth and transformation whether you are a B. Well Client or not, I encourage you to start a journal. In this journal, write down 5-10 experiences you would like to invite into your life this year: peace, love, joy, adventure, sexual freedom, improved friendships, financial well-being, deepened spirituality, or happiness. How would you like to experience yourself? Is this the year you will find reflection in your voice? Expand your leadership skills? Create more time for your family? Accept your body? Be open to what the year brings and commit to finding what you seek wherever it is available. If you are open to experiencing more love in 2019, do not limit yourself to romantic love, focus on all the love that will come your way: the man who helps carry your groceries, the public acknowledgement from the church, a gift on your desk from an anonymous co-worker...love will be present; will you be open to receiving it in whatever form it comes? Remember to write all of the things you would like to experience in the affirmative. Esther Jno-Charles reminds us, "What you focus on expands. So focus on what you want, not what you do not want." I hope each of you makes well-being something you would like to experience.
As you embark on this growth journey, I hope you know the joys of mental, ritual, and physical wellness and well-being. Are the work to get from where you are to where you want to be? Remember, you have the power to heal yourself. B. Well is here to you create your best life. Let's prepare for the New Year, knowing we are not alone in this journey.
Be prepared,
Dr. Adrianne R. Pinkney,
Integrative Wellness & Life Coach
